Neither of my two born children were planned, they were as I like to call them, gifts from God. My first son’s name is Mateo which actually means gift from God! However, I believe at some unconscious level the choice to conceive was made and therefore the experience proceeded.
My boys are now ages 8 and 4 and for a while now I have been desiring to have a girl. I have been asking the universe for the opportunity to mother a daughter and I have been inviting her spirit to join our family. Earlier this year, my husband and I decided to go ahead and remove my IUD (Intrauterine device) as the first step towards conceiving another child. I knew it wasn’t going to take long to get pregnant and it didn’t! I had been very aware of my cycle for a few years by using the Natural Birth Control Method which involved tracking my temperature daily and paying closed attention to the consistency of my cervical fluid and the position of my cervix to anticipate ovulation. Something I suggest every woman learns about in order to get familiar with her own cycle and have more management over her birth control or pregnancy achievement. A book that explains this method very well is “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” by Toni Weschler.
Since we really wanted to conceive a girl, I did some research on the science behind gender selection and I came across the term swaying. Swaying is basically a method based on 7 factors used to increase the odds of having a certain gender. The 7 factors are: pH, ions, minerals, diet, hormones, supplements, and timing. There are TONS of detailed information on what to do and what to avoid and honestly the idea of doing it all felt a bit extreme. I believe conceiving a child alone is a miracle of its own but I couldn’t ignore my desire to have a daughter. Knowing that swaying is not 100% guaranteed, I decided to follow what felt right and ignore the rest. I read that the more time you prepare your body the higher the chances of achieving the results you want but our process happened rather quickly! I took my IUD out in April and got pregnant in June! It was an interesting process and we won’t know how successful our attempts were until March 2014 when our baby arrives!
Diet, ph and timing were the factors that made more sense to me. I also chose to incorporate some of the information I learned on ions. According to my research, the optimal diet for TTC (trying to conceive) a girl is rich in Calcium, Magnesium, Sodium and Potassium. When it comes to pH for TTC a girl, the ideal is 4-4.5 for cervical fluid and 7-7.5 for semen. These ranges are considerable low than what they are naturally so we made some efforts on making both of our bodies more acidic which was quite a challenge since alkaline is what we normally aim for. This process involved checking the pH level of my cervical fluid almost daily and more than once a day when we were in window as well as taking certain supplements and eating particular foods that would make both of our bodies more acidic. The timing also made sense to me taking into consideration the theory that the female producing sperm (XX) is larger, swims slower, and lives longer while the male producing sperm (XY) is smaller, swims faster but is susceptible to harsh conditions such as acidity in the vaginal canal. This theory known as The Shettles Method, based on the work of Dr. Landrum Shettles, also suggests having sex 2-4 days before ovulation to conceive a girl, which we followed. I also read somewhere that if the man masturbates at least once a day preceding the 2-4 day window before ovulation, there are more XX sperm produced and therefore the chances of conceiving a girl increase. We tried that as well. Supposedly there are certain sexual positions and other methods that encourage the XX sperm to get to the egg instead of the XY sperm. It is also highly suggested that women don’t orgasm because this makes the vaginal canal and cervix more alkaline. That part was not possible for me to follow! As far as ions, I learned that they can affect the polarity of your egg and your pH. In TTC a girl, exposure to negative ions is what’s recommended. We chose to incorporated some negative ion elements such as salt rock lamps in our bedroom and stones such as amethyst, hematite, and rose quartz. We also conceived during a new moon in the summer season which also influence the negative ions and hopefully increased our chances of making a girl!
Knowing that we didn’t follow the ALL the swaying suggestions and only went with what made sense to us, leaves some room to the mystery that life is. It really excites me not to know the baby’s gender and waiting to be surprised at the birth. I also trust that life will provide me with the experience I need to have. So we’ll patiently wait to see if our attempts were successful or not. In the meantime, we’ll be thinking of some boys names just in case. Of course we already have a girl’s name picked! The reality is that I am pregnant and I couldn’t be happier about that. It’s been an amazing journey so far!
What do you think about all this? Have you tried any swaying methods? Did it work? Share your experience!